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How does a woman notice you when there are better looking guys in the same room? Is it common sense to say that maybe you should dress like them and you’ll look good as well? The answer is no, that is not the logical thing to do.

Rather than copying someone else’s style and trying to fit in with the crowd, you should stand out completely. If every guy is wearing a black or white shirt in a room, come with a bright red shirt and TRY not to get women’s attention. Women will not be lining up to see and touch your bright red shirt; however, you’ll be surprised how every women will notice your red shirt. Every time she looks your way I guarantee she’ll look at that bright red shirt.

This concept is called Peacocking (introduced to me by Neil Strauss in The Game). Peacocking is using you’re clothing or accessories to stand out in a crowd and catch people’s attention. This can be done with colorful shirts, bright or colorful accessories such as watches, necklaces, bracelets, piercings, hats, stylish shoes, etc. Be creative.

But what exactly is it about your style that attracts a woman. Peacocking doesn’t just capture a woman’s eye because you have something bright on you that’s hard not to notice. Peacocking allows you to communicate certain qualities about yourself without even talking to the person. Wearing a bright red shirt when everyone else is wearing black says to other people, “I am confident enough to wear something different and if you don’t like it, take a walk.” This shows that you’re self-confident, unique, interesting, and so far, a good catch.

One of my Peacocking accessories is a simple leather necklace with a key attached to it. I bought it at American Eagle, and hang it loosely around my neck. It may sound weird to go out with a key hanging around my neck, but you have no idea how many girls have asked me about it. It’s usually either “Why do you have a key around your neck” or “Does it have a meaning”. And what do I answer back to them? Whatever crosses my mind. It doesn’t really matter what you say back, just as long as you’re friendly and smile. Here’s an example.
At a house party:

Heather: Why do you have a key around your neck? Is it your dorm key? (Turns to her friend and giggles)

Me: Actually it’s the key to your heart, but I’m probably throwing it away later. Or maybe I’ll give it to that guy. (I point at some random guy and smile back at Heather)

Heather: (With a flirtatious tone and bit of attitude) What, am I not good enough for you?

Me: Actually I hope you are good enough for me. Why don’t we sit down and find out?

(She agrees, so I grab her hand and take her to a couch)
(30 minutes later we were making out)

Notice how Heather found my necklace so interesting she had to ask me about it. That is the purpose of Peacocking. Find something to wear that will make you different and interesting. Remember, if she thinks you LOOK like everyone else, then she thinks you ARE like everyone else. Women want something different, so be different.

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Every woman has her own list of qualities she finds most attractive in men. According to my research and experience, these are the most popular qualities (not in order of importance):

1. Self-Confidence
2. Style
3. Sense of Humor
4. Status
5. Intelligence
6. Good Listening Skills
7. Spontaneity

You don’t have to memorize these qualities and come up with elaborate plans on how you will improve in each one. You shouldn’t be thinking about this list while talking to girls because you will immediately fail the 6th quality (good listening skills).

I just want you to get a general idea of what women are attracted to, and a fair understanding as to why they’re attracted to these qualities.

1. Self-Confidence – Women can sense and almost measure your self-confidence by simply looking at your body language. Bad body language emits awkwardness and insecurity, while good body language emits confidence and grace.

2. Style – Women like something unique and different, which can easily be seen in a person’s style. If you look like everyone else at the dance floor or in a bar, you will be just like everyone else in her eyes.

3. Sense of Humor – Making a woman laugh will make her remember you and will make her want to hang out with you again. Don’t be boring because the conversation will be dull, but don’t be a clown either (you are not there to entertain her). Also watch out for inappropriate jokes.

4. Status – Women like men who are leaders and accepted by their peers. You don’t have to be the CEO of a company or a king to have status, just act like one.

5. Intelligence – Women like a man who is knowledgeable. A good, smart conversation is always more memorable than boring chitchat. If you can maintain your intelligence in a conversation, you will maintain her interest.

6. Good Listening Skills – A woman likes to be heard. So many men are such bad listeners, that when one of us actually listens and maintains eye contact, women are impressed.

7. Spontaneity – Women like an exciting man. They like the feeling when they don’t know what a man will do next. Of course, just because an activity or action is spontaneous doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Don’t expect a girl you just met to want to run in the woods with you at midnight.

As you read lessons, keep these 7 qualities in mind, and you will begin to see connections among them. By now you should start realizing there is an actually science in attracting women; you don’t just get “lucky” one night at the bar.

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Before we get into men attracting women, lets take a brief moment to see what animals do to attract their female species.

Take the Peacock for example. During breeding season they extend their trains of tail feathers and show off their beautiful colors. With their chests puffed out, they walk around confidently shaking their feathers and make mewing cries that may sound like a kitten or a small child.

The Peahen finds this attractive and chooses the biggest Peacock with the most beautiful colored tails. But how do Peacocks know what to do to attract Peahen? The answer is very simple: they are born with the instinct.

Some men are born with that certain charm, and just know how to attract a woman. We all have a friend that can easily talk to a girl and get a number, kiss, or more that same night. And what do you do while your friend is having fun talking to women? You watch him have fun and wish you could do the same…

Men are not taught how to attract women. We never take a class in high school that teaches us how to get a phone number, how to kiss a girl, or even how to approach a girl. I have witnessed the most ridiculous pickup lines, and every time I see one I feel like I need to help the poor guy. These men don’t know any better, because they never had someone that would take some time to help them. Maybe these men felt awkward or embarrassed to ask their parents or friends about attraction. Whatever the case, we must agree that we are never properly taught how to attract a woman.

Some of us have it and some don’t. However, just because you weren’t born with the charm, doesn’t mean you can’t learn it. There is a way to approach a girl, and a way not to approach a girl. In this blog you will see what the rights and wrongs of attraction are. You will know what it is that a woman wants, and how you can show her you have what she wants. This is not really a secret. Many men know how to attract a woman, but for those of you that are not 100% sure, this blog will help you attract women make new friends, and create and maintain better friendships.

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